mechmouse: Not Really. Imagine a scale from 1 to 10. ... snip
I think you are becoming a bit defensive... but I'll bite.
Yes really.
Can you have privacy from your wife? Yes you can. Hence private use might exclude even her. The fact that you consider your household, somehow defined (blood relation? sharing a house?) as included in private use does not make it so universally, objectively, legally...
So your scale of 1 to 10 is subjective. For you private use starts from 5 and higher, but for others it's only from 9 higher or something. Which is true? Both are. It's subjective and the ambiguity is inherent in that personal opinion / interpretation. Your assumption of private use is that, an assumption.
I'd say it's mostly a valid assumption, particularly in anglo-saxon derived law, but I think for typical software licenses it is clearly invalid. And if we go into the TOS and find the word individual anywhere - very, very common term applied to software use licenses - individual, not transmissible, etc... etc... even more so it would be not ambiguous at all what the rights holder intends.
As for examples of having separate copies of something. Of course they exist. Like toothbrushes? I'll keep mine private to myself even within my household thank you very much. And I can tell you sometimes I get peeved with someone for eating the yogurt I bought and was looking forward to in the future. The other should have gone to the store and got their own. :P
Digital books likely experience a lot of the same issues you have with digital games. I'm glad Amazon for example facilitates some forms of sharing. But I see that as a benefit, not something I'm entitled to And I'm not blind to the fact it's Amazon's size, like with Valve that allows them to stretch the service delivery envelope in such ways. Smaller providers might not be so profitable to afford that level of service.
As for physical books ones who knows. Let's see... I can imagine examples involving signed copies, annotations on the margins, books with a significant emotional value, etc... etc...
Are those enough scenarios for 1 minute of thought? Will you please stop with the comparison to physical goods, since precisely that is begging the question? Digital is digital and physical is physical. The assumption that property rights should be identical for both types of property is just that - an assumption. You can't just stipulate that I should agree to it, and much less for the creator / rights owner of whatever object you desire to simply agree to your terms of use.
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Digital Right holders are not stupid, they are clever and they are greedy. They found a loop hole in the contractual nature of licensing that let them alter the market in their favour, its nothing more than that. ILicensing was originally stop stop unlawful distribution, but then moved to stop the second hand market and now to the point it is bound to an individual and contractually unusable to anyone else.
IP is much older than digital stuff. It was applied for example to music concerts and stuff like that even back in the 19th century. Maybe even 18th. Nice way to reveal your moral / ethical assumptions there though. Greedy indeed. I suspected the anti capitalist mindset already, but that's fine. I actually like it when someone actually is open enough to show their ethical assumptions.
Digital Right Holders recognized the differences between digital distribution and physical distribution and stretched the existing law in the direction of protecting their privilege to benefit from their creation. You seem intent on using established law / practices in the direction of protecting your privileges around family sharing. Which of you should win the legal argument? Which of you is being greedy? Opinions will vary, it would be great if neither you nor them actually thought they had an inherent right to force the other to behave in a certain way.
But hej, that's just my laissez faire tolerant approach. And to your credit, you seem very unwilling to abuse the position / power you have in your interest. You want it to be legitimized socially. Kudos to you for that restraint. And this is not ironic at all. I wich everyone had the similar kind of respect.
mechmouse: The ease at which something can be abused should not dictate its usage rights in that way. A DVD can be copied and distributed with no effort. Should that mean I rebuy Lord of the rings so Daughter can watch it, just because its possible for it to be ripped?
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Now, I wonder if this is an actual question? :) As in, do you want my ethical argumentation on what you should do in such circumstance? I'll give it to you anyway. :P
You should respect whatever conditions the creator / seller stipulated. Your choice is to not buy the product - be it physical or digital - if those conditions are disagreeable to you. Feel free also to buy the stuff and then complain about something. But if I were you I'd not expect such feedback to matter much.
To me the ethical matter is independent of the ease of doing the "wrong" thing. That does not come into it at all.
So despite my having tried to indicate to you that you should just do what you feel is correct and moral - just stop trying to convince the rest of us your morals are the best morals. My personal opinion is actually very simple. Don't share with your family unless you are sure you have that right. Go ahead and buy other copies. Don't like that? Don't buy.
Black and white enough?