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darthvader39560: Its always nice to see people benefiting from others threads. I guess thats why its called a community.
Heh,

I'm way past the age of bothering wooing a girl, but are correct, nonetheless.
Good luck with your girl.

And on a small note, if she ever hurts your feelings or tell you she's not for you, don't forget there are a lot of awesome girls our there.
You'll be fine.
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Kunovski: wow, this is hardcore... when I remember my 15, everything I did to impress a girl was just a disaster, they always ran out to more charismatic/funny/athletic guys...
Indeed, thankfully its the narcissistic, plastic and thick ones that go out with the athletic/funny people in my year. I ain't complaining. I prefer intelligence over looks any day.
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darthvader39560: Its always nice to see people benefiting from others threads. I guess thats why its called a community.
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kojocel: Heh,

I'm way past the age of bothering wooing a girl, but are correct, nonetheless.
Good luck with your girl.
Thanks.
Post edited December 03, 2013 by darthvader39560
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Kunovski: wow, this is hardcore... when I remember my 15, everything I did to impress a girl was just a disaster, they always ran out to more charismatic/funny/athletic guys...
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darthvader39560: Indeed, thankfully its the narcissistic, plastic and thick ones that go out with the athletic/funny people in my year. I ain't complaining. I prefer intelligence over looks any day.
You're way to smart/considerate for a 15 yr old. Good luck and go for it ;)
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Kunovski: wow, this is hardcore... when I remember my 15, everything I did to impress a girl was just a disaster, they always ran out to more charismatic/funny/athletic guys...
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darthvader39560: Indeed, thankfully its the narcissistic, plastic and thick ones that go out with the athletic/funny people in my year. I ain't complaining. I prefer intelligence over looks any day.
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kojocel: Heh,

I'm way past the age of bothering wooing a girl, but are correct, nonetheless.
Good luck with your girl.
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darthvader39560: Thanks.
and just to assure you, I actually know a couple that did hook up at around 13-14 years, dated ever since (with obvious hickups and problems and minor short-term splits) and are now married and have a lovely daughter :o)

it's rare, I know, but these things do happen!
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darthvader39560: Indeed, thankfully its the narcissistic, plastic and thick ones that go out with the athletic/funny people in my year. I ain't complaining. I prefer intelligence over looks any day.
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Reever: You're way to smart/considerate for a 15 yr old. Good luck and go for it ;)
Huh. Or I know that in 40 years time the ones I mentioned above will probably look like someone on Methamphetamine.
I'd rather be able to have a good conversation.
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Reever: You're way to smart/considerate for a 15 yr old. Good luck and go for it ;)
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darthvader39560: Huh. Or I know that in 40 years time the ones I mentioned above will probably look like someone on Methamphetamine.
I'd rather be able to have a good conversation.
always grab the real one instead of a barbie - you must "like" her of course but it's a long-lasting trend that the most pretty go for the most ass-holey :) it's sad in a way... maybe they don't want to, but the idiots just attract them...
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Reever: You're way to smart/considerate for a 15 yr old. Good luck and go for it ;)
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darthvader39560: Huh. Or I know that in 40 years time the ones I mentioned above will probably look like someone on Methamphetamine.
I'd rather be able to have a good conversation.
That's why you don't date the ones that use methamphetamine :D
All I can say is don't try to impress her, be yourself and be friendly. Casually ask her to hang out, maybe a movie or some other shared activity. Don't be an ass, but do be a bit aloof, a bit distant but not to the point of seeming uninterested. If things go well just hanging out try asking if she'd like to go on a date, and be a gentlemen (but like others said that doesn't mean being a doormat). I think "robogod" from Futurama said it best, "you have to use a light touch". If things are meant to be then they will work out, but never be discouraged and REASONABLY don't give up.

As much as I believe in you have to work for what you want (and with this case it is true), still somethings will happen if they are meant to happen. I hope this is of help to you, and I wish you luck with this girl. :)
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darthvader39560: Huh. Or I know that in 40 years time the ones I mentioned above will probably look like someone on Methamphetamine.
I'd rather be able to have a good conversation.
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JudasIscariot: That's why you don't date the ones that use methamphetamine :D
That is a good idea.
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Licurg: Beat the shit out of someone when she's around. But someone tough, not some wimp. Women like brutal, aggressive men.
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monkeydelarge: That works too but he should only do so, if he won't have to do time. What is the point in impressing a girl if you get locked up for many months or years... Nowadays in countries like the USA, they are treating teens like adults.
Actually, he should try doing something utterly revolting. As in, a crime against humanity. Whenever someone like Josef Fritzl gets caught, the newspapers (well, tabloids anyway) are tripping all over each other to tell us how many love letters the fucker is receiving. Sure, you might be in the clink for a while, but if they let you out, you'll have a legion to choose from.

EDIT: Okay, some proper advice. Don't overdo it, and don't put up an act. That worked for me. Once. Still, it's looking like it might work again in the relatively near future, which is good enough for me.
Post edited December 03, 2013 by AlKim
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LiquidOxygen80: Look man, despite what people want you to think, there really IS no trick or special way to talk to women/girls. Just be yourself, rough edges as well. Women like confidence, and confidence in who you are, tempered with the ability to be natural is a good start. Being funny is a good opener and one facet of what girls want when they're scoping guys as objects of their affection, because if you know how to have a good time, you'll be fun to be around, and fun to be around is contagious to both sexes.

There's too much pressure to be perfect prince charmings and most of the time, that's not want women actually want either. Don't worry about making a mistake, bro, because most of the time, if you come off a LITTLE awkward, it's endearing.
^This.

Just don't try to stray too far from who you are. Ultimately, if she likes your alter-ego then it'll be difficult to feel relaxed in her company.

Good luck bud.
ok, last "hint" from me as I'm no expert (if you knew me, you'd laugh right now):

I've noticed that the more you like her / feel attracted to her / want to impress her, the worse your performance is :D (I'm not saying you're as hopeless as I am ;)

but when you're around a girl you don't find attractive, you're much more comfortable, calm and relaxed and you can act more naturally...

I'm not saying you should start to hate her, just try to talk to other girls you might not find interesting or attractive, just to learn that talking to a girl is the same as talking to a dude, with just a couple of specifics - that way when you talk to the Girl, you'll be more confident and less scared...

right, last one as I said, good luck!
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monkeydelarge: That works too but he should only do so, if he won't have to do time. What is the point in impressing a girl if you get locked up for many months or years... Nowadays in countries like the USA, they are treating teens like adults.
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AlKim: Actually, he should try doing something utterly revolting. As in, a crime against humanity. Whenever someone like Josef Fritzl gets caught, the newspapers (well, tabloids anyway) are tripping all over each other to tell us how many love letters the fucker is receiving. Sure, you might be in the clink for a while, but if they let you out, you'll have a legion to choose from.

EDIT: Okay, some proper advice. Don't overdo it, and don't put up an act. That worked for me. Once. Still, it's looking like it might work again in the relatively near future, which is good enough for me.
Sure, a man will have a legion of women to choose from if he gets locked up for being an insanely twisted evil bastard but he will also have a legion of people who want to put a bullet in his head. But everything in life has it's Pros and Cons.
Post edited December 03, 2013 by monkeydelarge
Do not attempt to impress a girl. At age15 any attempts to impress a girl can only end up in varying degress of feeling like a tit (as opposed to getting to feel a tit).

Think about it, even by now you must have witnessed all the stupid ways kids sell out to impress the fairer sex. It will go wrong in some way, you will regret it.

The thing is you don't need to impress her. Teenagers are a boiling pot of hormones, combined with a raging sense of insecurity. This means that simply being around, not attempting to be impressive, will give you a massive advantage of the posturing morons sitting to the left and right of you. This article helps to accurately represent the teenage state of mind (albeit that of the boys, but I think there's similarish thoughts on the other side).

Remember - massive boiling pot of hormones, massive insecurity. Just talk to her enough to show you're interested, and wait for the right signals.
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wpegg: Do not attempt to impress a girl. At age15 any attempts to impress a girl can only end up in varying degress of feeling like a tit (as opposed to getting to feel a tit).

Think about it, even by now you must have witnessed all the stupid ways kids sell out to impress the fairer sex. It will go wrong in some way, you will regret it.

The thing is you don't need to impress her. Teenagers are a boiling pot of hormones, combined with a raging sense of insecurity. This means that simply being around, not attempting to be impressive, will give you a massive advantage of the posturing morons sitting to the left and right of you. This article helps to accurately represent the teenage state of mind (albeit that of the boys, but I think there's similarish thoughts on the other side).

Remember - massive boiling pot of hormones, massive insecurity. Just talk to her enough to show you're interested, and wait for the right signals.
You have a point.
And I only just managed to send her a friend request on facebook. :)
Post edited December 03, 2013 by darthvader39560