Shalgroth: You hate the simplistic advice? Guess what.. It's what works for the people WHO DO NOT GET DIVORCED. And it's realistic, not so tarnished with bitterness and cynicism that it lacks complete objectivity. "Find someone who's fun, then leave when it's not?"
It most certainly does not work for everyone who doesn't get divorced (who, by the way will be less than half the people who marry). So many of them are trapped in a living hell due to obligations to children, family, and fear of the ruin of what divorce would bring. Do you really think everyone who manages to not get divorced is happy? The majority aren't. If you don't believe me feel free to volunteer at an old folk's home sometime, listen to their stories.
Any marriage can go ass over head at any time through circumstances way beyond your control. Yeah, life is hard and marriage can (not always) make it harder. You may be perfectly willing to power through the worst of your "or worse" marriage vows, but you know what? Your partner may not, no matter what you think he or she will do.
You can have every benefit of a relationship without marriage; marriage is nothing but an outmoded legal construct propped up by theological beliefs that in this area, like in most, seem to do as much harm to society as good. It's not even needed to enforce care of children anymore as the state does a pretty good job of enforcing financial care at the very least (at least in the US).
You're absolutely lying to yourself, may you never get struck in the face like so many do. The fact is, you may, anyone may.
48% odds of winning is casino odds, man. It's not "realistic" as you claim.
deathknight1728: Im not asking my parents to fight the battle for me, my dad just happens to have connections with someone on the board of directors. If I can mess up this asshole's life for crossing me and humiliating me, Im all for it. Im not really an aggressive person, but....when people do piss me off, i dont forget it.
That's called "vengeance" not justice. Do it if you want, but don't lie to yourself about what it is.