toxicTom: Ah, the joys of marriage...
Well I tend to agree that most women have that in themselves (
not: are like that). I know fights like this, actually had one about a week ago with my beloved. Usually there's PMS to blame, but sometimes there are other (often to me incomprehendable) reasons. My strategy usually is dropping that topic and waiting for the smoke to clear and come back to the issue at a later and hopefully better time.
henchwench82: Well, she's not my wife, thank God, so I don't think this is marriage specific. ^_^
I've seen this kind of behavior before, and I recognize it for what it is- I just don't understand it. Why even be talking about something you don't want to actually talk about? Why talk AROUND anything in the first place? What kind of incomprehensible reason could possibly be behind this? (I guess it doesn't matter if no one could understand it anyway!)
One thing though, I don't really agree with blaming poor behavior on hormones, PMS and so on (if it's not that, it's "the change.") I know you weren't blaming it always on that, but some people (of both sexes) do act like PMS is some Get Out Of Jail Free card and since this is the "bitch about life" thread, I will bitch about it ;) Acting like an asshat is acting like an asshat. Yeah, some things may make you more prone to acting like one on any given day, but carving a week out of every month to not have to control your inner asshattery because, "oh, my uterus!" isn't right, in my opinion. If the average man can avoid beating his wife when he's had a bad day at work, the average woman can restrain herself from mindfucking with her husband because she's got the cramps (unless it's consensual, ha). And if she truly can't restrain herself, there's medical treatment for that, it's in no way "normal" to be rendered an out of control psycho for the entirety of one's childbearing years.
Anyway. To everyone who voted "life is too short," I agree completely.
I agree with you. Just because someone is in pain(even extreme pain) or feeling like this or that, he or she doesn't have a pass to treat other people like crap. Sometimes, people can't help it. I understand. You feel bad and the rage just comes out. But then they should at least make up for their shitty behavior with at least an apology. Expecting people to put up with your shit because of this reason or that reason is being way too entitled. Of course, if you think someone deserves to be treated like crap, you shouldn't hold back...