ChaunceyK: I've had some health issues & personal issues for awhile now, and I have no doubt they feed each other in a vicious cycle. I'm quite frankly disappointed in the lack of sympathy from my wife (part of the reason we separated nearly 2 months ago), although we generally keep things civil, but jeez....I just feel like I get no sympathy at all from her. I'm not dying or anything, but my doctor has encouraged me to pursue a Disability claim (which I am), and to be honest it scares the crap out of me. Its the whole "not knowing" what's gonna happen to me thing that gets to me. And on top of the health issues, being separated causes me anxiety & stress too, because it means I'm not living with my children...they're only turning 4 in a week, and although 2 of them just accept my moving out, one of them has asked me more than once why I don't live there anymore, and at her age I just feel trapped because there is no way for me to answer it honestly without fear of messing her up.
I'm trying to do what I can, but my wife makes me feel like its just not good enough.
Just heard an ancient good song you might want to try, Tell Me, Stones, give to wife.
Dumb, I know, but I used do well playing with beats in songs as no-one could figure out, and change up as needed.. you can do the same in a different realm in the absence of interference. Say what you need to say, define what you need to define, listen, develop plans as you did; not Ann Landers but fight or resolve self to defeat. Effort can never guarantee success, but lack of it can guarantee failure at times. Best of luck.
Edit to add: Is not a begging song in any way. If taken so, I would not accept or entertain any bullshit on that premise. Up to the individual as always.
Edit: to clarify